I am not a club chick typically- meaning I am not the girl that feels a need to go to every club and partake in wild nights in NYC.  Dont get me wrong, I know a night on the town can be fun; but I just cant do the club scene too often.  Quite honestly, I usually have very little patience for the club scene, the touching guys and the sometimes drunk and wanting to be catty girls.  I think the ‘drunk in the club’ look isnt becoming for any lady, nor is the catfighting (although I understand both can happen to the best of them).  SO- I have chosen to minimize my club visits to minimize my chances of dealing with the nonsense that comes with it.  HOWEVER- every now and then a night to just get out, get your dance on, hang with your folks and just enjoy the moment is always therapeutic.  I think its almost very much needed every once in a while.  To faithfully go a few times a week or every weekend I think becomes pretty lame, especially after a certain age (like college) :) .  After a while you have to ask yourself what are you expecting to get from the club and how much of that scene do you need to feel ‘hip’.   

The club can be filled with broke guys, chicks who spent their last on the outfit they bought to wear to the club, guys just looking to floss but live with their mothers, baby mama’s who need to be home with their kids and a bunch of other people who is looking to ‘look a certain way- in the club.’    I’d be a lot more impressed with these people if they knew how to stay out of the club, if they could manage to still ‘appear’ like somebody’s out of the club.  When they finally outgrow the club and they end up yelling at the bouncers- screaming ‘Your’e just a doorman’ like in the movie Knocked Up- they’ll finally get it. 

I say all that to say I was in the club Friday night!!  LOL 

It was more a bar/lounge.  Nice spot.  This was one of my therapeutic nights I was speaking of.  Hadnt been out in quite some time, my girlfriend was in town wanted to get out, me and the mister wasn’t having our best time; a good night out was just what I needed to solve everything. 

I was especially happy I went because not only did I support my good friends who promoted the event, but I got to see some of my old co-workers.  I was particularly happy to see Dj Envy, its been a minute that we just talked it up.  We used to talk like everyday about everything.  There are those people in life you just love and respect no matter what- DJ Envy is one of those people for me.  I was glad to see him and Mike Gimmel, and catch up on things.  It was a good night.  Party was cool, no fights, good music, no drama.  We didnt close the club down though.  One of my friends had to drive to Boston in the morning, the other who IS Caribbean said it got too ‘caribbean’ for her.  (Dont ask.)

In the next few months when I decide to surface on the club scene it will hopefully be as worth it as it was at this event.

‘Just my thoughts.  Just what I was feeling at the time, right or wrong’

WATCH THE LAST EPISODE:  Moment of Truth, Episode 16

This is by far one of my favorite shows on television.  I love the concept behind it.  Let’s face it telling the truth and nothing but the truth is very rarely an easy thing to do.  If you cant be honest to win $500,000 chances are not many other incentives will encourage you either.

On the last episode (see video above)  a young lady was asked questions that hurt her mother, sister and boyfriends feelings.  The look on their faces was enough to bring you to tears as they heard the truth about the way their loved one felt.  The contestants boyfriend Farzeen seemed hurt that not only did his girlfriend wish he was more endowed, but she sometimes thought she deserved a more attractive boyfriend.  Every person in the world, regardless of confident and attractive you are has wondered if their significant other wanted better or bigger, but to hear that has to hurt.  Those are those things that you never tell someone you love and dont want to hurt, even when you consider yourself completely honest with them.

I have been someone who has always prided myself on being honest, so much so that I considered applying for this show figuring it would be a walk in the park- an easy $500,000 if I made it on.  However, after thought I realized even I, who feels I have nothing to hide, am unsure I can handle revealing even my inner most thoughts and secrets to everyone.  Thing is even if someone is perfect, noone has perfect thoughts.  This game doesnt just reveal things you did and hoped noone would find out it even exposes what is inside your brain, to things you would never admit to anyone you even thought about.  Those things you say sorry to God for inside your brain for even thinking them, lol.  So this show is quite interesting to me, I tivo it and I will be watching it faithfully. 

Keep an eye out, you may see me on the show one day. 

Just my thoughts.  Just what I was feeling at the time, right or wrong’

I went by Kensington yesterday to turn in some edits to my soon to be released third book. I spent a couple hours chatting with my editors and agent and it was a very enjoyable conversation. Due to law school and working I had been unable to spend alot of time at my book company, so it was good to be able to do so.

I started out the day by visiting with some colleagues. It was a beautiful day outside, a great day to have nothing in particular to do. I got several compliments on my shoes that I was wearing, I must admit I love them too. Here’s a link to check them out… well BCBG no longer has them available on line, but this is the shoe:

but in the flat version. This shoe is what it looks like,

shoe but in the straw and black version the first link goes to. If you want to get a pair, you may have to make your way to a BCBG store.

So anyway, my editors and agents gave me more insight about the book industry and the state of the market, etc. Alot of useful information because I easily fall out of the book industry loop with everything I have going on. If any one has any questions about the book industry or writing books, feel free to contact me. I feel like I have a wealth of knowledge now and I dont mind sharing it.

Just my thoughts.  Just what I was feeling at the time, right or wrong’